Archive for April, 2009

A phrase I overheard last Sunday afternoon: Things are thieves of time. The more you own or desire them, the more time you have to sacrifice by working to keep or acquire them.

This is particularly relevant at this stage in my life when I’m beginning to ask whether the things that I’m able to acquire are worth the sacrifice I’m making with the relationships in my life. Not that I’ve been burning bridges, but a little neglect here and forgetting to touch base every now and then can add up and before you know it…you know what I mean.

I hope you won’t have to go through these concerns during your time. I hope that you won’t have to face a decision between life and working to acquire things (and if you must, that you always choose life). I hope that you have better luck weaving your way through this world and I hope you always find yourself successful in nurturing the relationships you have with family and friends. I hope you always know that working and “things” exist to support life and relationships and not the other way around.

I hope you don’t let yourself be lured by the temptations of things which are, I think, the root cause of many worries in life.


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Husbands and Wives

I had a wonderful time with your mommy during the Marriage Encounter weekend hosted by Bukas Loob sa Diyos. One thing that stuck with me is this paraphrased passage from the Bible:

Wives, be subordinate to your husbands for the husband is the head of the family…husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church.

Your mom and I initially reacted with consternation: why this very male dominated view of married life? Why should the requirement on the wife be so much as to almost degrade her as a second class citizen in the marriage?

What we didn’t notice which our spiritual director, Fr. Gerry Juarez, pointed out very well was the part about the husband’s duty:

Love your wife just as Christ loved the church.

Recall that Christ died for the church. This means that I as a husband must give up my life for the sake of your mommy. If the situation calls for it, I should not hesitate to favor her well being over mine. I have to admit that this has been my mistake in the past. Even as your mom and I were married, I continued to think more of a bachelor and to favor things that give me pleasure. I was even critical to your mother for not being perfect. Perhaps I was not vocal about my critique, but thoughts are sneaky little things and they always find ways to come out whether through words or actions.

The marriage encounter has done a wonderful thing to me and your mom and I hope that, when the time comes, you will also participate in such an event as it will help you live a full and happy life with the partner of your choosing.

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