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Husbands and Wives

I had a wonderful time with your mommy during the Marriage Encounter weekend hosted by Bukas Loob sa Diyos. One thing that stuck with me is this paraphrased passage from the Bible:

Wives, be subordinate to your husbands for the husband is the head of the family…husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church.

Your mom and I initially reacted with consternation: why this very male dominated view of married life? Why should the requirement on the wife be so much as to almost degrade her as a second class citizen in the marriage?

What we didn’t notice which our spiritual director, Fr. Gerry Juarez, pointed out very well was the part about the husband’s duty:

Love your wife just as Christ loved the church.

Recall that Christ died for the church. This means that I as a husband must give up my life for the sake of your mommy. If the situation calls for it, I should not hesitate to favor her well being over mine. I have to admit that this has been my mistake in the past. Even as your mom and I were married, I continued to think more of a bachelor and to favor things that give me pleasure. I was even critical to your mother for not being perfect. Perhaps I was not vocal about my critique, but thoughts are sneaky little things and they always find ways to come out whether through words or actions.

The marriage encounter has done a wonderful thing to me and your mom and I hope that, when the time comes, you will also participate in such an event as it will help you live a full and happy life with the partner of your choosing.


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When Mommy’s Not Around

Your mommy commented a few days back how we seemed to have more fun with each other. She seemed a bit worried because she and you, according to her, were never that rowdy and energetic. She certainly enjoys spending time with you, but she noticed that there seemed to be more laughter between you and I.

What she doesn’t know, however, is that we’re really only this energetic when she’s with us. Otherwise, we seem to spend our times in a sort of calm enjoyment. What she doesn’t know is that it takes the three of us to have the sort of energetic fun that she observes.

Life just feels incomplete when mommy is not around, doesn’t it?

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Don’t forget to show her how much you love her.


I took this photo of you and mommy when you were just 1 month and 1 day old. I remember how that sleeping position was the only way we could keep you from crying that night.

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